I can see how it's a red flag that I didn't contact her after the first date. But in all fairness, it wasn't because of her. I barely go out an meet anyone any more. I find excuses and just stay at home all the time lately. I really hate that about myself these days, but that's how it's been. I don't try to to meet up with anyone, not just her. But yes, I should have probably contacted her.

I don't see how it's a red flag that she contacted me for the second date. If anything, that means she had a good time on the first date. I mean she's not going to contact me to go out again unless she liked me at least in some way. I consider that to be a good sign.

As far as whether it's about "what lies beneath the belt," not entirely but... I'm not exactly out there looking for a squash partner.

Anyway, I've been on two dates. It's not getting serious and I'm not really looking for anything serious. We're not even from the same country. Some day she'll go back to New Zealand and/or I'll go back to America. The latter may happen within the next year. I guess if things start to get serious, I can start thinking about what will happen if they do. That's not even a consideration at this point, though. i can't even figure out what to do for a third date! :-)