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My T in the beginning invited attachment, said my work with me was interesting and rewarding, even send me e-mails after session asking how I was doing. He became involved in a venture I wanted to take up in the future when I was recovered and pushed me to fast. I became overwhelmed and regressed fast. Well he kind of slammed the door in my face so to speak. His entire attitude changed, he went from a coach, mentor and full support system to a typical 50min session times up have a nice week therapist. Turned a cold shoulder and I am left scratching my head and feeling abandoned and unworthy. Like I did not make the cut, like he thought I was going to better than the rest, a star client. Like I let him down. Therapy sometimes can do more damage.
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When a child’s emotional needs are not met and a child is repeatedly hurt and abused, this deeply and profoundly affects the child’s development. Wanting those unmet childhood needs in adulthood. Looking for safety, protection, being cherished and loved can often be normal unmet needs in childhood, and the survivor searches for these in other adults. This can be where survivors search for mother and father figures. Transference issues in counseling can occur and this is normal for childhood abuse survivors.
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