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Originally Posted by Eliza Jane
I obviously took a different med, but my kiddo turned out fine. My BFF took Celexa and her kid is good too.
Did I worry and feel guilty the whole pregnancy? Heck yeah. I think that is normal and somewhat unavoidable. One thing that helped me is that I did get off my meds prior to getting pregnant with the hope that I could be med free. It was hell and I quickly became suicidal, and the docs and I decided this wasn't viable and I got back on ASAP. However, having that experience made me realize that I really and truly benefitted from and needed my medication. Keeping that in mind helped some. If you aren't going to attempt to go off, perhaps you can think back to your life pre-meds and think about how much better it is now.
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Thanks fort this, it helps A LOT. I think you're right that the guilt is probably going to be unavoidable. One of the things that frustrates me is that I don't quite have specific concerns, it's just a vague fear of doing the wrong thing for my possible future baby. I think it touches on various issues that a lot of us have going on meds in the first place. Feeling like I'm making things up and I don't really need them and it's selfish for me to be on them while pregnant if I don't really need them, and so on, things I would never say to someone else but use to shame myself. I think what happened to you would happen to me, too -- trying to quit and being promptly reminded of how much I benefit from meds.
It just helps to hear from a human that no, it's not really that much better for a baby for the mom to be as unhappy as I was pre-meds.
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Originally Posted by Eliza Jane
Another thing that really helped me was having a supportive pdoc and OB. A previous pdoc had been quite unkind and unsympathetic to me when the idea of pregnancy came up. I replaced him with someone who could support me in my desire to have a child.
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How awful. I'm glad you found someone supportive. Luckily, I'm in a medical community that's very supportive of women in this position. I'm trying to get a consultation with a local health center that specializes in women's mental health.
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Good luck!
EJ
P.S. I know you didn't want medical advice, but just FYI, my docs really emphasized taking just one type of med. It sounds like you are planning an SSRI and Wellbutrin? You might ask your docs to see if they agree or disagree with mine. Just thought I'd mention it because my docs felt strongly about it.
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Thanks! And yes, thank you for emphasizing this. I saw a couple times in my reading that having two medications did increase whatever small risks there are, which is concerning to me. I'm hoping that I can check in with a specialist about that because it does worry me. My pdoc didn't seem to concerned but I'm not sure how much experience she has with pregnancy and medication specifically. So I do appreciate your bringing it up.
This really helps a lot, thank you.