Thank you for writing Lynn P. :-) I am concerned that he has NPD, because of the way he treated me and how he behaved when I stopped going along with everything he did without question. Prior to the introduction of Eve, he and I had a very easy going relationship. I was happy that he is happy with her, in the beginning, but after seeing changes in him and realizing that he was using lies to inflate his persona, I politely and calmly tried talking to him (in the same manner we had always communicated) in the months prior to the blow up but he always dodged and said they were busy and he couldn't talk. They got very angry at me a few months before because I cancelled a dinner invite at their house (eves house) because my daughter had strep throat....they thought I made it up and accused me of it via email. I took a pic of her meds and the after care instructions from urgent care and sent it to them, and after that is when they basically stopped communicating with me until the blow up. He has alienated many of the people that he has been friends with for years, a few of them reached out to me and asked "who the F is Eve?"....they all noticed big changes in Jim, not good changes. One of the friends who has known Jim since he was in High school (he's 40 now) said he does this every time he's with someone new....molds himself to their likes, dislikes, and behaviors....Eve's family is quite wealthy, and are (according to a mutual friend that he hasn't unfriended) giving he and eve a huge "allowance" to live on.....and knowing my brothers inability to get along in along in a work environment (he always says someone has issues with him and looks for a new job) I'm sure he is quite happy to live off of someone else. Does a normal, respectable, 40 yr old man do this? I know I can't do anything about his behavior, and I haven't even tried to contact him since just after the blow up a year ago...I have given in to the reality that our relationship is ruined. I just wonder if there is a reason that this all happened...I have replayed it all a million times and have read the emails looking for some sign that I caused this. I have shared these messages with certain friends to see what their take is and they all said that it seemed unprovoked.....since many of the messages were via FB messaging they have been deleted by him, somewhat recently, though he didn't delete them all. Anyway, I don't know if he has NPD either, but from the descriptions I have read it seems he does.