I'm sorry that you are having a hard time. Perna listed some suggestions that might help you.
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She said I should be thinking in terms of buying a house not renting a flat, but I don't want to buy yet as it would lock me in place and perhaps make it harder for me to move to another part of the country (such as to take a higher-paid job). Also, I don't think a single person (or even a childless couple) needs a whole house -- I thought houses were more for families with children...
She ended up crying about how I'd "destroyed her" and "you do know you're sister is crying worrying about you if you're so much as five minutes late back from work. What would it do to her if you left home altogether? And she couldn't have her laptop or iPad anymore if you weren't here, and don't say you'd pay for the internet access anyway. Who of us could keep it running?"
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It seems like your mother is purposely making you feel guilty and being manipulative, which isn't cool. I think it's unfair that she's putting this burden on you. I think you and your family would benefit form talking to therapist about this.
Also, you mention that your mother doesn't have a drivers licenses due her anxiety. Yes, driving is scary and it took me a while to get mines. Your mother needs to step up and get over over her fears and take some responsibility. You can't be the only only one in the house that drives.
I think it's possible for you move out your parents house and still be able to help them out. I know you care about your family but you need to live your life.