...my sister is trying to run my life.

I've been in this town and in this job for 4 weeks. I have had exactly ONE full paycheck. From it, I had to make a car payment and assorted other things. I get paid again Wednesday.

I forgot that I owed her money. I told her I would send her half when I got paid. I have now gotten 4 snotty emails from her giving me crap about how I spend my money.

I lived with that for 6 months, and I had to, because I lived in her house. But you know what? I'M F'IN FREE. I pay my own rent in my own place. I buy my own food. Am I wrong to think she has no right to tell me how to spend the money I earn?

I am happy to pay her back but I'm now taking crap for doing things like buying Christmas presents (like I can show up at her house empty handed, or I would have heard about that too). I'm taking crap for not working at a part-time job an extra 40 hours a week so I can make money to pay people back. Her 20 year old son is depressed, poor baby, and he comes home and sleeps all the time, or lays on the couch and watches TV endlessly, but I had two major life transitions in 4 weeks and I'm not allowed to get depressed? It's been a hard adjustment!

I would never presume to tell someone how to spend WHAT THEY EARNED. I put in the time and effort to get the paycheck -- totally not her problem where it goes.

Am I wrong? I'm too pissed off to tell.

Candy