Sweetheart, you don't have to apologize to us...we've been there, or are there. Life has it's ups and down, the only problem is when we fail to pick ourselves up.
You're a good person, and should stop feeling so much pressure to "BE" everything for your friends. "Free will" is amazing...your friend "J" and also "S" perhaps will never understand what they're missing out on, but you have a friend here.
((((((((((COLLEGEFRIEND))))))))))
Love,
Jon

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