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Originally Posted by ImperfectMe
My husband of 15 years told me a couple of months ago that he had an affair 8 years ago. He told me he was sorry, that he didn't want to lose me. I asked him to leave, and he did. I've never been so hurt. I think that this is actually worse than the incident that caused my PTSD. What I don't understand is why is he not begging me to stay together? Why is he not doing eveything he can to save our marriage? Am I being selfish for wanting him to beg even though I'm not sure I'd be willing to take him back, or willing to try marriage councelling? It's a hurt like no other. With him not even trying to talk to me makes me feel rejected, or like he's waiting for me to call him and say "Okay, I'm over it now. You can come home." So confused.
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Look - he was living with you just fine. You were not talking about separating soon - right? He did not have to tell you. For some reason he told you. What was the reason? You did ask him to leave (an action) but did not ask him why he told you (motivation).
It may be the case that he himself is confused and does not know why he told you, though.