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Originally Posted by George H.
That sounds fine if it works for both partners. I disagree with whether monogamy is natural or unnatural or whether that is even an issue.
Most of us choose to be faithful when we take a life partner and the expectation is that our partner chooses it as well.
Most of us don't feel the need for anyone to choose for us or tell us that our choice is unnatural 
No offense but what you're saying sounds like a rationalization of behavior. If you have an open marriage and your partner agrees to it, that's great but I find it odd that you feel the need to bring the rest of us into it. |
First of all, I am not trying to condemn anyone for their choices. Your choices are your choices to make. I am also not trying to convince anyone not to be monogamous. However, I do intend to rigorously argue my case and if someone ends up being convinced, then so be it.
You seem to take offense to your actions being called "unnatural." I don't see why. Not killing someone you are mad at is also unnatural. Driving a car is pretty unnatural. We do things that are not natural all the time. All I'm saying is that when we decide to do things that are against our nature (and yes I do maintain that long term monogamy is against our nature) we should have a good reason for it. I just want to know what the reason is for monogamy.
By the way, while we're on the subject of monogamy being natural, there are very few animals in nature that are monogamous. In fact, some of the few animals that we have long believed to be monogamous have recently been discovered not to be. Yes, they keep the same mate for life but also have sex with others on the side. Many biologists now believe that the only animals that are naturally monogamous are the ones that physically bond together during the mating process or don't tend to survive it.