I am so sorry for your loss. How heartbreaking for you. Please seek help from your T regarding finding some legal advice. You are ill and your brother should not be telling you anything like that, especially right now. But you do need to get some help regarding this to maintain a home & medical care.

I wish I could help you with the visitors that will want to come, out of respect for your dad. Try to remember that it is their way of expressing their grief and also their appreciation of who he was.

Receiving visitors is customary when someone dies. Only do what you are able. Try not to stress too much about it. No one expects anything from a person who is grieving.

Again I am so sorry for your loss(es) I will keep you in my prayers.