"How can you love someone and force then to be monogamous?" I can speak on this issue because of a choice my own husband made 8 yrs ago. His religion permits more than one wife, but most don't do it and we had a deal it wouldn't be done. I have nothing against polygamist marriages or poly-amorous partnerships, as long as all adults are consenting. Consent is the key word here. If its consenting, its not cheating. What I'm against is being forced into a polyamorous or polygamist arrangement against ones will.

Many people expect monogamy and can abide by this effortlessly. Personally I wouldn't want to be with anyone else and could do this for a lifetime. Once I commit, I could be in a room of great looking naked men and come out loyal. I do understand your concern if the person's a virgin and then never has any other experience - that happened to me. This is why its preferred to "sow ones oats" prior to an official commitment.

I want to ask you. Are you willing to be honest from the start of a serious partnership that you'll be having other partners? Being honest will prevent women from being hurt. If you are, then that's fine and just hope that you'll all practice safe sex. Imagine if you draw a diagram of all your hook ups and theirs - that's a great deal of exposure. Cheating is making a partner think you're monogamous........ but if its an open relationship or polygamous relationship, its not cheating. Consent is the key word.