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Old Jul 29, 2013, 02:26 PM
High Treason High Treason is offline
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Originally Posted by lynn P. View Post
I met my husband when I was 18 ....married at 25 and after 30 yrs he decided to marry another religiously speaking and cut me off in the physical department. We had a deal and he agreed to monogamy....he did want it and I didn't impose it on him. I didn't force him but he tried to force me to tolerate this and not be with anyone else. If I'm monogamous, I have the choice to find a partner who also wants the same - he did want the same and went back on the agreement. I can't be attracted to a man who has sex with other women therefore I stopped loving him. I wouldn't force anyone to be monogamous - its has to be natural and a choice.
It sounds to me as though in this case, he just stopped being committed to you. Because of the acceptance of polygamy in his religion, he saw an "easy" way out... This is completely different than being in a committed relationship where the odd sexual encounter outside the relationship is permitted.

Polygamy is a different things entirely because it entails additional commitments, not just a commitment but allowing sex with other people. While there is no reason people shouldn't be allowed to engage in polygamy, it has a lot more issues and is more complicated than what I'm bringing up here which is merely the issue of requiring sexual exclusivity within a committed relationship.