Yes, I do agree with this. I've said it before in this thread and I think it's worth repeating that I am in favor of people making their own choices and not trying to convince anyone that their choice of monogamy is wrong or that they should make different choices. I just want to understand why people want monogamy. I understand that many people want a monogamous partner, and it makes sense that those people find a partner who is monogamous. I just want to know why people want that.

I mean, I'm attracted to women with dark hair. However, if I found an awesome woman who was blond, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. I'm not attracted to religious people, but if I found an otherwise awesome person who was religious, I would deal with it.

I guess what I don't understand is the deal breaker aspect of sexual exclusivity. To many monogamists, if they were to find someone who was perfect in every way except that they wanted to have sex with other people, they'd call the whole thing off over that one thing, and they'd do it without a second thought. It seems to me (often when reading posts on this forum) that there are two things that are 100% deal breakers in many people's minds: being abusive and having sex with another person. The first one makes perfect sense. The second one doesn't.