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Originally Posted by High Treason
Yes, I do agree with this. I've said it before in this thread and I think it's worth repeating that I am in favor of people making their own choices and not trying to convince anyone that their choice of monogamy is wrong or that they should make different choices. I just want to understand why people want monogamy. I understand that many people want a monogamous partner, and it makes sense that those people find a partner who is monogamous. I just want to know why people want that.
I mean, I'm attracted to women with dark hair. However, if I found an awesome woman who was blond, it wouldn't be a deal breaker. I'm not attracted to religious people, but if I found an otherwise awesome person who was religious, I would deal with it.
I guess what I don't understand is the deal breaker aspect of sexual exclusivity. To many monogamists, if they were to find someone who was perfect in every way except that they wanted to have sex with other people, they'd call the whole thing off over that one thing, and they'd do it without a second thought. It seems to me (often when reading posts on this forum) that there are two things that are 100% deal breakers in many people's minds: being abusive and having sex with another person. The first one makes perfect sense. The second one doesn't.
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Its seems we agree on several points and I'm not judging your preference. I would only be against cheating if the partner expected exclusivity. I tried to tell you why I expect monogamy but you didn't acknowledge it. It would turn me off to know he's doing the wild thing with someone else. I would also be concerned with STD's. For many it hurts when there's cheating, assuming there's a promise of exclusivity. As I said before....it requires a shift in thinking, where they fore go any jealousy or possessive thinking.
Hopefully you'll pick women where it won't be a deal breaker. Its a preference and a belief system. I respect yours and neither do well together. I wouldn't want to force any man into monogamy and I don't want to be forced into an open one. It all comes down to expectations and respecting the others beliefs.......whether they can live harmoniously .