Flooded, I know! And that advice is coming from TWO divorced women! My bff who was actually physically hit twice before she left him. She had her moms to move back to though. She is going thru her second divorce with a cheater and my other friend has been divorced twice. One was a drug addict and a cheater and the other one, I forgot, but he wasn't a violent person. He was no prize though. She is independent and happy now. My bff is not too upset anymore about things.

I hate to say this, but I have to be realistic, I have no savings, no job, nowhere that I can stay, not even at my friends place, and my parents are crazy, especially my dad, he's mean and controlling.

What can I do? He told me many times in the past that I'd get nothing if I leave him! The best thing to do is to get a job and save up money first! I can withdraw what's in there now, but then that wouldn't look good if I do leave him I guess.

He has refused counseling in the past. He wasn't always this bad. He became mean after two years into the marriage after he started his business. It seems as hes' taking his stress out on me! Is there any other alternative? I there any hope that he can change?