I don't think it's silly that you still love someone who is no longer in your life. It makes sense if that person was really special to you. I think the key is finding peace with the previous relationship, being able to see what happened, learn, and move on. It's easier said the done, I know.

I've been divorced for 3 years and I still have pain and miss him. No matter how much he hurt me. It's tough. But try and be open with the person you're going to talk to...hopefully they can help u work through this. Hang in there Hun.