Teen Idle,

I am sorry if you have talked about it already, but did you lose a sibling, which would be your mother losing a child?

The reason I ask this is that the "grieving" process is different. A mother losing a child will carry a lot of "guilt" and sense of responsibility and that can turn into a deeper challenge then a sibling who, while suffering a big loss, doesn't have the same kind of responsible feeling.

She may have some PTSD going on and that can cause her to "distance" and "fear to love and attach to the remaining children". This can happen without it being a "conscious choice".

Well, before I get to involved with further explaining, maybe you answering my intial question is in order first.

OE