Good topic!
Torn I'm curious as to what you have in mind when you say you want greater access to your T. I absolutely get the wish, I know that many of us wish we could have T there to help us through our hard moments in your week, when we feel anxious, when we're having flashbacks or coping with difficult memories etc. But what do you feel would be a realistic set-up for you (bearing in mind that pretty much no T with appropriate boundaries will give you the okay to call day or night)?

PE I think your description of therapy as a kind of reenactment of abandonment trauma week after week is brilliant. I'm curious about the format of your daily contact with T. Do you call? Email? Text? Does s/he respond each time you contact or is it enough to be able to leave a message about what you're thinking and how you're doing. How long are these interactions? Do you pay extra for them?

Every now and then (maybe once every 2-3 months or so) I will email my T when I am having a rough time. She usually answers quickly but her emails are very brief and not especially satisfying. However it's still nice to know she's there (usually she'll write something to the effect of "how you're feeling isn't forever/we'll talk more"). Once we spoke on the phone for about ten minutes when there was a death in my family. Other than that we generally don't communicate outside of sessions or just brief emails to confirm or change appointments.