Hope this is not a hijack!!

Our daily contact is usually just a few short texts. Occasionally an email. It used to be primarily email but I found that just reaching out a little before meltdown-mode ensued, was very helpful. We talk about our contact all the time and we are both comfortable with it. I wrote a lot more on this thread about our contact. She always responds to the first few texts. I don't pay extra for them. That part freaks me out. I'm always worried that she's giving too much or I'll become a pain in the ***** somehow, so am very careful about boundaries and always making sure everything is okay on her end. She is constantly reminding me that she can "take care of herself, thanks."

Honestly, I dont know how I would handle the original poster's problem. I think exploring the need behind the contact is a good place to start, and imagining a situation where the contact could be "enough" and also discussing it with the therapist!!