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Originally Posted by High Treason
Ok... then by all means don't tell me. I don't mind that much, I guess. I just think if you're a woman hooking up with some random guy, it might be nice if someone knew where you were. That's all.
Actually your response is somewhat interesting because it's a perfect example of how people take what they believe, assume everyone else believes the same way, and then interpret everything anyone else says as evidence that they do believe the same, throwing out the parts that don't fit as "just an excuse" or some other such thing.
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No, I think that's what you're doing. I am good at monogamy, but my preference is probably non-monogamy. All of a sudden you're assuming I'm having random sex with some skeevy random guy that wants to hurt me. Whereas I'm probably just doing someone really cute with ties to the community, as they say on Law and Order. Does it still feel good to you? That's what the problem is. What if the other person finds someone "better" than you and then wants to be with them exclusively? Then you feel like an idiot for settling for less - ugh, this sounds like what im dealing with in therapy.
I haven't caught up yet, sorry if I'm repeating.