PumkinEater you’re describing exactly how it is for me – I could probably deal with one session a week, as you described for you, if I had the option of regular out of session contact – I really fail to see how I’m going to be able to trust T or get a sense of continuity otherwise

And exactly about re-creating one’s own abandonment trauma, that’s what’s coming up for me at the moment, all this enactment stuff with T. And you’re right on about if you can get that consistency and support when you really need it, eventually you start to feel safe and can stop needing it as much. There’s a truism in there that Ts don’t seem to get.

Thanks for the suggestion – I’m seeing him today and will probably bring it up (am a bit scared to because I know I’ll get a no and that will send me into a real tailspin of rejection) but I have to get it out there, have to bring up the neediness and such like. Changing Ts isn’t an option, so I’ll just have to see if things can improve with only the one hour a week contact and decide further down the line.