Starry thanks for the link. Yeah the willingness of DID T’s to be much more there for their clients is something I’ve been aware of for a while, but over here DID Ts are pretty thin on the ground. And not all of them are as willing to give that kind of security to their clients. I did actually see a supposed DID T for a while but she made it clear that any extra sessions or out of session contact or loaning of transitional objects and the like was a temporary thing at best, and I felt like she couldn’t be trusted to be there when I needed her… I suppose with a T who is not prepared to give any extra at all, at least that fear doesn’t come up because I already know he’s not going to be there when I need him