PE not a hijack at all, I’m very interested in the details of other’s therapy anyway

Interesting point you make about freaking out that you are taking ‘too much’ and monitor yourself and make sure you don’t push too many perceived boundaries. I think if I were given carte blanche in the contact stakes, I too would be careful not to overdo or overuse the option – again something T’s don’t seem to give clients credit for…

And you’re dead right again that all I can do in my situation, is bring up the need behind the contact and see where that takes me/T. You know I have no idea what ‘enough’ would be, because I’ve never really had it and so have to rely on my imagination to foretell how much might realistically be enough, but emotionally, enough in real world terms equates to too much