I agree that getting SOME of what I think I'm needing might only serve to intensify the need without actually satisfying it, but I have to maintain my view that being deliberately denied nearly all of what I perceive to need does not have any benefit to me or my healing.

I don't see any inconsistency in what I wrote, as although I experience myself as having this huge all encompassing need, I am still in charge of it, to an extent, and can see myself very clearly being careful not to alienate the potential good attachment figure. I think I'm also eminently self aware enough to be able to bring up and discuss how disappointed I might be at not getting enough. But I still want the option of being offered way more contact than I currently have. Just having the option can go a long way to satisfying a big part of the need.

Oh and it is about opposing you, because you are in this instance the mouthpiece for the psych theory you are explaining and I happen to disagree with it, whereas I get the impression you pretty much see it as correct