For me personally, this is a containment issue. I used to email my T a lot out of session and felt I was exploding everywhere. I'm feeling less like this now and will usually send one email, if that, with stuff to talk about.

My T observed that I was a bit fixated on how I used the time and what I got out of it, and I think it's been better since I stopped worrying about that and just thought: okay, I'll go into T and see what happens. I don't go in with a list of topics to mention like I used to, but with just one thing in mind to talk about.

I would not be able to cope if I couldn't have any out of session contact at all. I need to be able to contact my T, even if he doesn't reply. (He doesn't reply to emails usually but reads them before the session. He does reply to texts.)