Ok, apologies - I was going on your last post about what equals a good date, and this post too:
Quote:
Originally Posted by High Treason
For context, basically my previous relationships with women have gone something like this:
Scenario 1:
1. Go to bar
2. Get drunk enough to hit on women
3. Find woman who is also drunk
4. Sex
-OR-
Scenario 2:
1. Meet woman
2. Ask her out to bar
3. Both get drunk
4. Sex
However, I recently met a woman and have gone on two actual normal dates with her. I mean I guess they are normal dates. I don't know what a normal date is.
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It made me think that your expectations are out of whack with this lady going on your previous experiences. And you made me smile when you said you had to wait a whole month!! Grins. A month is nothing to some people. You wonder what normal is - now is there a normal? Everyone is different and has different thoughts on this issue. I guess communication is a good start to find out where they are at.
If you want to get more romantic towards her, perhaps make the initiative? I don't mean expect sex or force her to be more personal, but perhaps make things more romantic? Ask her for a picnic or something, in a nice quiet spot and perhaps you can get a little bit more cuddly. At least you'd get to know one way or another if she's into you in that way. As she has initiated pretty much all the dates, maybe taking control of the next one by getting things sorted out may be nice for her too! If you don't take the initiative sometimes you're giving off the vibe of perhaps you're not that interested... so she could be very wary of taking that next step, and who can blame her?
You say that there has been nothing in that way, but perhaps she is thinking the exact same thing - ie "when IS he going to kiss me"?! One of you has to make the first move.. I remember being asked on a date by a man if he could kiss me, how cute! I loved that he did that and yep, I sure did kiss him.
You say about flirting - smile a lot, listen to her in an interested way, compliment her.... and you'll do grand.
