you never really know a technique how to cope it just takes time on your part to distance the memory from the reality from the past and the present.

i have had relationships where i gave in to their needs even though i was hating it just to keep them happy and when i declined because i was hating them for it the relastionship broke down it has took me a long time to realise this that i have the power now to say no and guess what i am still married 3 yrs later trust me i have had my arguements and i shouted the reasons why i said no but i wait until i am ready for any sexual contact instead of forcing myself to enjoy it and it works for me my abuse started at 7 i am 32 now and it has been a long tiresome episode i have dealt with for many years

all i can say is when you are ready then you will know that you coped the only way that you knew and i hope you find a patient and understanding partner to reasure you

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this is just an insight for you a little guidance if you need it