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Originally Posted by sandysay
I have no shame, nor problem telling others about my husband. But, my husband doesn't want me to say anything and he has lied about all the different places he allegedly works that honest healthy relationships aren't possible.
I think he does it b/c of the way his own family reacts to him and his mental illness. They don't believe there is anything wrong w/him. They have been in denial ever since the psychiatrist first told them, when he was first hospitalized. So, he has no reason to be on disability. Besides, disability is for physical disabilities. They believe he is physically capable of holding down a job. They are ashamed of him.
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Yes, this is exactly what I was thinking it must be and because of that he's ashamed of himself. It's terrible for them to do that.
What your husband needs is a place where he feels safe that he can talk about his illness with others who are understanding. Perhaps a support group? Maybe if he meets others in similar situations he can build healthy friendships outside of his family, people who are seperate. And, perhaps you can then also be free to find seperate friends away from his family that he won't be ashamed to be around.