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But you don't see it that way because the people in charge of teaching you right from wrong, and of teaching you how to exist in the world and how to relate to other people, taught you to think it was fine for you to be beaten.
You're right when you say it can be hard to draw the line as to what is and isn't abuse. Some people think, say, hitting a kid with a belt is abuse, while some don't. But a broken bone? That is abuse. That is violent. That is not okay.
But, one day, you will be glad someone did something, that someone noticed and spoke up. Honestly.
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Your right, I dont see anything wrong with it. It works. I guess it isnt good that I think like this, but if someone's railing off on you, they shut up a lot faster if you punch them in the neck then if you try and 'use your words' like a lot of people are taught.
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You are still too young to begin to appreciate the negative affects the abuse you have endured will have on your life....once we get older and leave home, and the abusive situation, That is when it really begins to fall apart---you might look for "love" in abusive relationships, or even become abusive yourself if you decide to deal with it by rationalizing how you were treated, or simply out of an inability to control your feelings as you never had the opportunity to learn to do so----------think hard. Would you treat your child as you have been treated? Would you want it to be different? Your dad is being held accountable for his behaviors, which are criminal. Maybe, just maybe, he will have an opportunity to take responsibility for his actions and make a decision to change. Of course you love your parents, but that does not make what they do, or how you take it, right or healthy. Someone could literally die, a hit gone wrong or too far, a neck breaking in a fall, ....
Do you like your parents and what they do? Do you want to be just like them?
You deserve to be treated with respect and compassion, limits can be set without violence. Your friend was brave to call the police. Please do talk to a professional about this,
or at least stay here, read the forum for Survivors of Abuse---talk to others who have felt as you do and have "walked" in your shoes. Take care, give yourself a hug and accept hugs from others. I think you have a river to be cried one day. (((((hug))))))
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My mom filed for this thing thatll state that im 'legally incompetent' or something. She didnt really explain it to me, she just said something about her being my guardian still when im 18+.
If I ever do have kids, yeah, ill probably beat them. I dont like it when im beat, but the point isnt for me to like it or my parents when their doing it. Its a punishment, and it makes people listen even if they hate it.
I have three brothers and my parents never beat them. They only beat me because im violent and ****ed in the head.