Hello I'm new here but saw your post and thought I'd reply.
Obviously you need to do what deep inside you feel is best for you and this just my opinion so take or leave how you think best but, have you spoke to your GP? Could you maybe explain situation and see if he/she knows any other options? I'm from the UK so think the set up is a bit different with insurance you have etc but for me, my t is very cheap as he didnt want cost to be a barrier and he is amazing, I trust him and want to open up to him (which id never imagine I could) my concern for you reading your post is that you don't click with her, trust her, like her, so I wonder what positives you get?

I think some Ts go into business just for power and fact she just tells you to kind of get on with the withdrawal isn't healthy or empathetic to your needs!

Like said in the end it's up to you but maybe weigh out if she causes more negativity than positivity x