I've been on both sides of the coin. When I was younger, I was jealous. My exh is/was a very jealous man.

Badgering with questions, is about trying to control the environment due to fear . Fear of being alone, fear of losing someone, fear of feeling the pains from childhood. No matter what the fear is of, it's fear.

Constantly checking e-mails and texts, displays an invasion of privacy and lack of trust. It's self-doubt, aka, insecurity. There's a fine line there, it's human to have moments of insecurity, to have moments of self-doubt. Therapy work, and self-work, self-awareness can lead to being able to say, hey wow, I am outside my comfort zone, I am feeling vulnerable, and it doesn't feel good. The better thing to do, in a relationship, is to acknowledge, hey, this is what I am feeling, being able to express either with words or other forms of expression what the trigger is. And to just talk and communicate. It's non-confrontational, it's just showing the vulnerability to your partner.

Yes, if you don't address this now, it will follow you over and over again. Now, I hadn't completed my therapy work, on this issue. So that, by the time I reached my marriage(former), I declared to myself that I would no longer be that jealous type, but had I done the therapy work, I wouldn't have swayed so far in the other direction, that maybe I wouldn't have accepted it, with my ex-husband. Maybe, I'd have walked away sooner than later. And oh, wow, jealousy is a funny little emotion. What he has done is far worse than anything you've described here, it's just, I am trying to convey to you, that therapy work helps.

Sometimes, willing oneself to stop, isn't enough. That's the lesson I learned.