Hey.. I had to say that my friends son is in the Navy and when he first got stationed soemwhere, it took him FOREVER to get in touch with his mom. She actually called the Navy and they found him and told him to call home. They stress family contact.

And if it embarrasses him then tell him it embarrassed you to have to hunt him down when you taught him better than that.He is probably caught up in the newness of being there and keeps saying he will call tomorrow.. and tomorrow hasn't gotten here yet..

I think you are going to have to set up some definate boundaries....be assertive and TELL them what is going to happen... and when... let them deal with it.

It isn't being selfish to take time for your own well being.. you emotional health is very important.... and you can't be any good to them if you have a break down...

Be good to yourself.. you are in my prayers...