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Originally Posted by Shy Introvert
Anyways, he didn't pay ANY of my credit card bills for years! He just stopped paying
I have almost NO access to most financial statements other then what I see in the mail.
He only gives me $100 a week for food, gas, and whatever else I need.
There have been times where he has over $1000 in $100 and $20 dollar bills.
He then threatened to take my name off the account.
I just buy food, gas, get a cheap haircut at the nail salon once a month, go to the Drs. for meds
I haven't had ANY medical tests that I badly need done such as needing to get a blood test for diabetes (I'm pre-diabetic). I suffer from bad back pain and I can't go to the chiropractor or even get a massage that often since he's so tight with money and he won't give me money for much in the way of healthcare!
He tells me that I'm a "hypochondriac", ugh!
During our most recent fight, he was so mean and called me stupid and a fat lazy slob and why don't I go out and get a ****ing job like usual!
Is there anything that I can do about his very nasty attitude and temper? How can I get him to listen to me and be empathetic and caring about my health issues?
He argued with me before that a lot of people get by on a lot less per week with families.
. Please, no judgements on how you think that I deserve this or whatever.
Should I risk taking a little more from the account or not? What should I say to him that'll get him to let me take out a little out now and then w/o his permission? I feel like a kid being dolled out an allowance. This is financial abuse! |
I am going to share a clip from this article, that addresses his threatening to have you removed from the joint account...
Joint bank accounts: what you need to know - DailyFinance
"My husband and I had a joint account with Bank of America," she said. "I had been added to his existing account. When we split, I agreed that I'd cut up my card and that would be it. I figured he'd take me off the account at some point."
He didn't and couldn't -- she needed to sign paperwork in person at the branch to remove herself. Because she now lives on the other side of the country, she can't easily show up in person to sign paperwork and take her name off the account (in fact, they want her and her ex-husband to both show up in person), and while the bank has promised twice to send her paperwork to sign, so far, she hasn't received a thing.
Joint bank accounts: what you need to know - DailyFinance
So, with that shared, he'd need your signature to remove your name from the joint account.
At $4.00 a gallon, I don't know what type of car you drive, etc , but that, combined with the higher cost of food(groceries, I presume, which feed him, as well??), $100 a week, considering your living expenses and the fact that he carries over 1K, at a time?!!? Yeah...that's NOT going to cut it, is it?! Now, perhaps, he can find another way, to ensure that the groceries are a separate allowance?!
Name calling, that's emotional abuse.
And yeah, who wants to be intimate with someone who doesn't treat them with a little respect?! Your friend, was way out of line there!!!
I put a little question mark, next to the sentence about not wanting anyone to blame you. Sounds like you've grown so used to the put downs
And, you are also being deprived of seeking healthcare. Who made him the leading specialist on hypochondria?! Wouldn't that be up to your doctors to determine?
Asking for a separate grocery allowance, could be a start?