I relate to most of what you're saying, but I do tend to disclose a lot about myself sometimes. Typically, it is a drunk thing. I've had my boss write me a list of all of the unattractive things I do. I've asked people what they think and the answer that I always get is cold or intimidating. It seems that people are reluctant to talk to me because they see me as scary or uptight. It confuses me though, because I am very liberal and non judgmental, which is the opposite of uptight. It seems like my intelligence and articulation make people stay away, but those are good things. My boy said he was excited to talk, but hasn't given me a time. I'm not sure wether I should keep trying or just give up.