to be honest jax, if the people in your life demand lies, to me they arent worth the time of day.

i am an honest person, havent always been. i used to lie about how i was feeling, both about myself and about others. id lie to myself and to others in hope that the lie might become reality, and it didnt, to no surprise.

an honest life is far more rewarding. my dad said to me the other day that people who are honest, are reliable. and people who are reliable have far more respect than the people who lie. people know where they stand with honest people. they know when they have upset you, or they know if you like them etc.

and if i tell the truth to someone and they dont like it, well its their problem. the truth is the truth. and if it causes them to hold something against me, well then so be it. they obviously arent worth knowing.

lies can cause serious damage. i hate knowing i am lied to, and i dont like liers. there is no need to lie. i understand where you are coming form entirely, i understand entirely the motives to lie, but in the long run it will only leave you cold, empty and alone.

honesty is THE only way forward in my opinion.

im sorry the people in your life make you feel you need to lie, but trust me jax, you dont. be true to yourself and others. life is so much easier that way. it reveals who is a true friend and who isnt, because a true friend will accept the truth and not hold it against you. besides, the truth isnt you fault, a lie doesnt make you a better person, does it?

it really isnt worth the effort of lies, they only comne back and bite you in the arse eventually. trust me, ive been there. i used to lie but i hated myself for it. so now im honest. and if someone asks me for my opinion, they have the right to know the truth. and people who ask for your opinion, for the truth, and know you will give them a positive comment, a lie, they will think less of you.

simon