Sound like the family (H/kids) have labeled you as "the crazy one", don't allow that.
Do you tell your t. about this? Sounds like the H could use an educational session with t. to explain.
Your support may need to come from outside the household-----don't think that you having MI Dx makes him "normal"----or healthy----you just have a better idea of what is going on with yourself as you learn more.
What do you get that is positive in this relationship? Is it worth it?
Do not fall into the trap of "tricking" anyone for information/feedback; ask directly and note down response, doing otherwise gives the other person something else to blame you for....
All easier to say than do I know, sometimes it is awful hard to see the place we live in, we are so acclimated.