He was in a support group and then a program. Through the day program he met the schizophrenic & bi-polar friends. I have not had anything to do w/his family for over a year. He has an unhealthy pull towards his family and continues to visit and speak to his parents. He has put their needs and requests ahead of our family, to the detriment of our 5yo son & me. We went to couples therapy and he was told that his relationship w/his parents was undermining our marriage.
He will never go back to therapy or a support group b/c he thinks he's had enough. Last May, we legally separated, on my request. We are still living together. I've told him I would like him to leave, but I know he has no where to go. I care about what happens to him, yet this arrangement is depressing me. My depression has been well controlled by meds for over a decade. This past year I have been feeling worse and having difficulty functioning.
My husband can't live at his parent's house b/c his 2 other siblings moved back home. Even if there was room, they wouldn't take him in as long as he is on SSD. He doesn't receive enough to rent an apartment and he needs to be close to our son.