I'm sorry you are having such a tough time. I, too, suffer from depression. I'm diagnosed as bipolar but I'm beginning to wonder why, since all I feel is the deep emptiness of depression. Haven't been manic in so long I don't remember how it felt. I have been where you are and thank goodness I'm not that bad right now, so I can say things can get better. I hope you get some relief soon. I don't understand your counselor at all. There are always stressors for us. Some or just worse than others.
Wishing you well.
Gayle