I also want to add that I came from an abusive household myself... both parents beat me. I have permanent facial scars from it so I think about it everytime I look in the mirror or see a picture of myself. I have suffered broken ribs too - and I have this indent in my chest area where I was hit. Now that I have children of my own and see how f-d up my parents were... I WOULD GIVE ANYTHING TO BE ABLE TO GO BACK AND REPORT THEM!!! Sure, I was unruly... but nobody deserves that especially if they really are trying to follow the household rules... and you should know your kids well enough to know when they are really trying.