You won't be able to accept yourself at this juncture because you do not have a personal desire to do so - you are trying to act on your parents' recommendation that you accept yourself. That is unlikely to work.

Since the issue is so difficult, ideally you should be paired up with a competent therapist who, unlike your parents, would be neutral and professional. Your parents are vested in who you are (or, in who they think you should be) and lack the neutrality needed to advise you.

Would your parents not pay for therapy?