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Originally Posted by henrydavidtherobot
I relate to most of what you're saying, but I do tend to disclose a lot about myself sometimes. Typically, it is a drunk thing. I've had my boss write me a list of all of the unattractive things I do. I've asked people what they think and the answer that I always get is cold or intimidating. It seems that people are reluctant to talk to me because they see me as scary or uptight. It confuses me though, because I am very liberal and non judgmental, which is the opposite of uptight. It seems like my intelligence and articulation make people stay away, but those are good things. My boy said he was excited to talk, but hasn't given me a time. I'm not sure wether I should keep trying or just give up.
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Hi again, a few questions .. when you say you've had your boss write you a list of the unattractive things you do, do you mean you asked him to write that or he did it of his own accord ? Regardless, did any of the items on the list resonate with you ? Was he able to balance the list with some of your positive traits ? If others perceive you as scary and uptight, and you experience yourself as liberal and non-judgmental, it seems that there's a bit of a disconnect between how others see you and how you see yourself. Yes, intelligence and being articulate are positive traits, and I think it's possible to use these qualities negatively, as ways of protecting yourself. Are you being honest with yourself about the way you are with others ? What you're describing sounds like pretty heavy stuff.