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Originally Posted by sweepy62
I get what you mean time goes by quicker than you know it but it seems you got some stuff done and I'm happy fouling I'm happy she said she is connected to you I think I will ask my t that question next week hugs
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Thanks, sweepy. Yes, I always get "some stuff done" in my sessions but sometimes more than other times. I know that's normal.
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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
I hate it when sessions seem to go by in a blink of an eye like that...
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I know! I wish I could have a 4 hour session sometimes! At least once.
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Originally Posted by growlycat
My main T says I'm looking for every session to be "magical"
meaning a deep connection, a big breakthrough, a hallmark moment.
They all can't be fantastic sessions but I understand the wish.
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Yeah, sometimes there is a deep connection or a hallmark moment, at least for me. It's weird that my T thought we were connected but I didn't feel that way.
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Originally Posted by moonlitsky
Sounds like part of you is leaving her before she leaves you - if she no longer means anything it feels easier to end perhaps?  |
That could be true, though I don't want to do that. I want to savor the special connection I have/had with my T. I don't want it to end before it has to. I don't want her to turn into thinking of her like my "accountant" or "lawyer". She's so much more than that. The child parts miss her and wish they didn't have to give her up quite so soon. Though 3 1/2 years isn't so soon. I still want both of us to take care of them. Maybe I will tell her that, and see what she says.
My T doesn't think it was a mistake to let me hold her hand, and to reply to my emails, and then change the rules. She said she had to change things as therapy evolved and she saw how I was doing. I told her it would have been better, then, to tell me that maybe those things would be temporary. I think she thought I'd stop by myself. So, she agreed that it would have been better to tell me it wasn't going to be forever, OR that the rules might change at some point. That isn't contradictory, at least not to me. It wasn't really a "mistake", but something that she saw wasn't working for me as therapy progressed. If answering my emails and holding her hand wouldn't have been hindering my progress, she would have let me continue.
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Originally Posted by tinyrabbit
That's very black and white thinking, though. A lot of us do this: we think that you're either right or you're wrong. If you could have done it differently, it means you made a mistake, you screwed up, you should feel bad.
I think Rainbow's T has the confidence to say she could have done something differently. You can often do things differently. It doesn't mean you should necessarily be in the doghouse, as it were.
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I agree with you, tinyrabbit.