...My T doesn't think it was a mistake to let me hold her hand, and to reply to my emails, and then change the rules. She said she had to change things as therapy evolved and she saw how I was doing. I told her it would have been better, then, to tell me that maybe those things would be temporary. I think she thought I'd stop by myself. So, she agreed that it would have been better to tell me it wasn't going to be forever, OR that the rules might change at some point. That isn't contradictory, at least not to me. It wasn't really a "mistake", but something that she saw wasn't working for me as therapy progressed. If answering my emails and holding her hand wouldn't have been hindering my progress, she would have let me continue....