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Originally Posted by winter4me
You do need legal advice, the law center suggestion is a good one.
And, legal aide. Also, you usually can have a meeting initially with a lawyer gratis. At least it would be "practice" for being able to go that route. Online research can help too--you will find a lot of info on what is avail. where you are, state laws etc.
I am going to suggest you speak with a manager at the bank where the joint account is held and ask them to explain their policies re: joint accounts. It might help you to hear someone there tell you that he cannot just take you off as he has threatened (as healing4me has posted.)
If you can put all your change somewhere---it adds up---when my kids were young, they opened bank accounts with the pennies we'd tossed in a bag for years---ended up being over $400.00 in pennies alone. And, a job yes---don't be afraid to apply for any entry level job---full or part time, whatever you get is yours and that is so important.
What about sitting for other's kids in their home? There is often a demand for that, and you would be out of the house and making some money---that is if it something you feel you could manage. If you drive, there are always early morning paper delivery routes, that don't pay well but again, it is something----(keep your eye on local want ads, something just right may turn up) Do you live in a rural/suburban/or urban area? What is around you? {& please don't dismiss the women's shelter option, they may also be able to help you hook up with services and legal advice} Be safe, keep hope and gather strength. We are all here for you.
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Thanks again for your advice and help-
I can ask the bank what their policy is on the phone. I'm sure that my signature would be required to close it. I'm going to take things one step at a time and join a domestic violence group first. Then I'll ask them what I should ask a lawyer. Finding a job, any job, will be very, very hard for me as I'm not that smart, I have no college degree, I'm shy, I have social phobia and I suffer from panic attacks, I hate dealing with most people, and I have almost no marketable skills.
I hardly know a thing about computer programs like Word or Excel. On top of that, I already have two strikes on my record, the first was for shoplifting back in 2000, and the second offense was for a first time DUI for drinking on an empty stomach. That was in 2011. The fines were paid, I went to school, and did community service, but it'll be on my record for 7-10 years, ugh! Plus, I have bad credit.
As for looking after kids, most parents want people who already have experience. If they do a background check on me, which they probably will, I doubt that I'll get hired. How do I even get a job babysitting kids anyways? I'd have to go thru and agency and there is no way they'd hire me with my background and no experience!
I'm not trying to be negative, I'm just being honest! I think that a night stocking job at a clothing store or something like it would be good. I could get discounts and not have to deal much with people. I can't lift anything heavy though as I have a bad back. I could be OK with working on the floor of a retail store as I'd just be keeping the place more organized. If I get asked for help, I won't have to do much unlike a cashier. I have done that before and it's a stressful job to where you have to be quick.
You also have to deal with overly chatty or mean customers who act like they're the only person in line, ugh! What jobs would be good for someone like me? Answering the phones after closing hours would be great too, but I don't know where to get a job like that! Any further advice would be appreciated on where to look for jobs and how to get one with my background.