All I know is that a mom can love her kids from a distance. Giving a child, even an adult child what they really need can be the hardest thing to do.

When the children get old enough.. unfortunately, it's time for real life to kick in. Meaning... the rules of life apply. Get violent, get lost. that's the real world. the instinct to protect them is in every cell of our body, but we must remember, even if they get lost... go out into the world and learn their lessons... they will be ok. Physically, they will be ok. they can cut themselves, smoke and do drugs, learn their life lessons and maybe even end up in jail... or worse. But physically, chances are that they will be ok.

that's really all the comfort us parents get sometimes. Knowing that our kids will be ok. Even if it's just physically ok out there in the world. But if we don't set them free to live life on life's terms they will never learn. Some of our kids need to learn the hard way. meaning going out in life and having no way out. digging themselves into a mess that seems impossible to dig out of. But they will. and it's inevitable sometimes.

I'm just rambling... sorry

hope you can find some strength in the words that I say. I know thinking this way has really helped me sometimes... maybe it can help you too.