From what I found on the Internet. You need an international family lawyer. International custody issues usually around the non custodial parent to have summer vacationand 1 week holiday. However this does not fit usually until the child is 4 years old. I would start saving now 4 tickets to go visit your child for a week when here she is first born. Try to bring your son also. while you while in the States file for visitation. get the books that allow you to record yourself reading to the child. start saving 20 percent of your income show that you will have money to provide child support when asked. the setting up a new one package with a little teddy bear, baby blanket, photo of you and your son, a couple of outfits,and a couple other little things. You may want to find out how much international melons because you may want to send a little trinket for the baby if you two weeks or so.also to become friends with the mom on Facebook so that you can get updates as they happen and asked mom to take video important events. Just because you live outside the country does not mean that your deadbeat dad do not beat yourself up about it.