I know you're hurting and it's to be expected...emotional attachment is nearly always more powerful than physical (in my experiance). She's probably only trying to detach herself from her expectations of what she hoped could 'be'...not from you. Let her find her equilibreum and remember, being honest with her was the kindest thing you could have done. Let her take the lead, contact wise, and take your time. I wish I could be more helpful, but at least I have experiance with this situation.