My parents were never "supportive" parents. My mom's always been a controlling parent. That has never changed, and I'm just about 29. It isn't a healthy relationship, but I know that my mom is never going to really change - that's what she seems to think being a parent is, and she considers herself to be supportive. She isn't.

I had to make the change, and I set very strict boundaries with them. I don't tell my family anything which I don't want to hear it from them - I live far away so this is easy. On the other hand, if they aren't prying, I'll share more of the details of my life with them as long as I don't consider it something that they could use against me. Then again! If they still try to be controlling when I see them, then I'll share perfectly harmless stories that will piss them off. At least it gives them a focus.

I try to be as good of a daughter as I can, but I don't feel any attachment to them.

If they would let go of the "control" idea of parenting then I am sure we'd have a much nicer relationship!