For the past 5.5 months, my husband has been taking 75mg of Zoloft. It started with a mild depression due to being 4 hours away from home 5 days out of the week. We have a 2 year old daughter, and from the first week she was born he was traveling. He missed both of us terribly and began having trouble concentrating at work/being very anxious in a hotel room almost every night. So, I regretably told him he should try to see if there was something that could help with the depression, anxiety, and OCD he developed.
The first month he was on Zoloft was pretty wonderful, he was relaxed, didn't cry on the phone, and he said he felt like he could concentrate. Before I get too ahead of my dilemma, let me tell you what his personality was like BEFORE the Zoloft....passionate, caring, funny, outgoing, loves to make people laugh, wrote little love notes to me every Monday morning before he left,loved to make breakfast for us on Sunday mornings, dance around the house, sang in the shower, would tickle me, wrestle with me, joked with me, initiated sex, and physical contact. I feel stupid listing all of that, but it sums up how great his personality was.
Anyway, the first month was great and I was so happy that he was feeling better. He told me he would go off of the Zoloft when he found a career closer to home, and it's been 3 months since that happened. What I am noticing now, is not normal. He is irritable all of the time, never smiles or laughs, plays less with our daughter, never touches me unless we're in bed and he puts his arm around me, cannot joke or play around, says his mind is racing 100 miles a minute, can't concentrate, is focusing on things from his past that he never talked about before, says that everything I say to him is just picking on him and makes him feel low, and can't remember things I tell him 5 minutes ago. He doesn't care if we are intimate, never talks about it, and if I ask why he doesn't care, he doesn't have an answer. I know all of this probably sounds petty, and I haven't put every detail in here, but this personality change is ruining our marriage. I feel like I don't even know him anymore. He says he's fine, and doesn't see a change. He wouldn't though right? People can't see how these drugs change them and sometimes have reverse effects....I don't know what to do to convince him that it's robbing him of himself, and not helping anymore....