Im happily married, mostly. The thing is, my wife has a few issues that keep us from being, well, fully realized as a couple and keeps her from being truly happy. I feel my life is almost complete, if It werent for this (minor) obstacle.She doesnt enjoy sex that often, as in, almost never.She has sex with me regularly but makes it painfully clear she doesnt enjoy it. Once every few months its good for her but thats rare. Even then she doesnt like it for more than a few minutes.
Its hard to get to the root of the problem because there are so many underlying issues she has. She has symtoms similar to chronic fatigue, depression, anxiety disorder, sleeping disorder, scoliosis, pretty deeply rooted back pain etc. She was also raped by her boyfreind years ago. These however are all things she doesnt complain about and mostly seems to be a very happy person. I dont know where to begin addresing these issues because she is complex to diagnose.I want very badly to help her(and us)becase as happy as we are, I know we could be much happier. she doesnt want to go to counciling(she said she went years ago and it was a big waste of time). part of her depression stems from not enjoying sex and feeling the pressure to enjoy it so she can be a better partner. She isnt sure if the pain from her skoliosis causes the sleep disorder causes the depression , which causes the lack of sexuality etc. or vice versa. Its multiplicity is quite confusing. I feel the fact that she was raped is part of the equation, but not sure where it all fits together and what order.